You can't fix this situation. Our lives have been changed forever. We will never get over this. We need to figure out a way to live with extreme grief. Your patience with us will be appreciated.
Talk about our child. Avoiding our child's name or stories about him or her is not comforting. If you're unsure, ask if it's okay to talk about our child.
Don't set a timetable for our grief. There are going to be good days and bad days forever. Please understand this and learn to go with the ebb and flow of the grief we're going through.
Know that good days are still a struggle. Grief lays just under the surface. Sometimes, we know the triggers. At other times, grief makes a grand entrance with no warning.
Every life, relationship and circumstance are different. It's only logical that grief is unique to each person.
Do not judge yourself too harshly. This is the most difficult thing you will go through in this life.
Don't set a timetable. You may want to do this for yourself or you may notice others trying to do this for you. Take it at your speed.
Let others know what you need. Generally, people are unable to understand the depth of grief you are experiencing. Don't assume they know what to say or do.
Stay in the moment. Don't attempt to look too much into the future. Focus on getting through each day or even each moment of each day.
Some people will want to sleep all the time. Others will not be able to sleep. If you're not getting enough sleep, talk to your doctor.
Some will overeat. Others will not want to eat. We found that protein bars or drinks can be helpful during this time.
If you're experiencing paralyzing depression, talk to your doctor.
Do not be afraid to ask for help from friends, family or professionals. This is not a sign of weakness.