Our names are Mike and Patty. We are evangelical Christians. We are the parents of Caitlin.
In the blink of an eye, on August 9, 2010, our lives were changed forever. On that day our beautiful Caitlin was taken from us in a motorcycle accident. She was riding on the back of a motorcycle which was being driven by a friend who was impaired by alcohol. Caitlin was 20 years old at the time of the accident. She had just started her junior year in college. Two years after the accident we had to endure a trial against the driver. The trial was an extremely traumatic experience. A verdict of guilty did not bring us any relief at all.
The devastation caused by losing Caitlin is hard to put into words. Every aspect of our lives changed at that very moment. We were (and on many days, still are) hanging on by a thread. How do we describe the emptiness of our home without Caitlin's voice in it? How do I (Patty) describe the aloneness that I feel because my phone isn't beeping at me throughout the day as Caitlin and I touch bases? We lost our present and our future. We will not have the joy of seeing her get married or having our grandchildren. We lost the joy of holidays and birthdays. Now they're just a reminder of what we have lost. But most of all, we just miss Caitlin's presence. We miss her every minute of every day. She was and is everything to us.
We hold on tightly to the hope we will all meet again.
We've been to group counseling, grief counseling and personal counseling with our pastor and tried to lean on the people closest to us. Unfortunately, it always feels like no one really understands. How can they if they've not been through it?
We hope this site will be helpful for reaching out to others and finding resources.